My Sister, My Self
I, too, come from a long line of independent women. My mother was one of six sisters (she was in the middle - number three), I’m one of two (I was called “little Vikki”), and I managed to produce two terrific daughters. In our own way, each one of us is a force to be reckoned with!
Maybe that’s why I became a family therapist! Originally from New York City, I graduated from Barnard College, Columbia University, with a Bachelors Degree in Psychology and from New York University with a Masters of Social Work. After having worked for two years as a social worker in Harlem, I moved to Montreal, where I now reside.
During the past thirty years in my practice as a family therapist, I have worked with scores of women on issues related to their sisters. I'm the Director of the Sedona Counselling Centre of Montreal, where we provide counselling and wellness services to our community. I also teach and supervise therapists-in-training and appear regularly as a guest expert on television, radio and in print media.
A while ago, my youngest daughter made an off-hand comment one day. She said, “No matter who I’m with, I always feel like a little sister”. A 100 watt lightbulb went off in my head, because it’s the same with me. I can be in a room full of women who are younger than me and I’ll still feel like the ingenue. I started asking some friends about their identities in relation to this sibling bond, and their interest and enthusiasm just talking about it was electric! And so, the Sisters Project was born.
I have had the privilege of hearing from hundreds of women, teens and girls. Some participants were interviewed face-to-face, usually in their homes or offices. Others went to all the trouble of filling out an email questionnaire and sending it to me - a complete stranger in cyberspace. All the interviews and questionnaires had one thing in common - a passion for understanding and explaining this childhood relationship that means so much.
In 2010, I wrote Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal, also based on a worldwide study of 400 women. Runaway Husbands demystifies how as man who appeared to be a stable, involved spouse could leave out-of-the-blue from what his wife believed to be a happy marriage. You can learn more at www.runawayhusbands.com.
To learn more about my therapy practice, or to book a telephone or Skype appointment, please visit www.vikkistark.com